Anything that is happening externally in your life is what you allow on the inside. We accept situations that we know that they dont serve us but we allow them daily to torment us and think we dont have the power to influence them. Just as you allowed those situations to dictate your life, you can claim your life back by making different decisions that will bring back your power and peace.
We have a tendency of thinking we dont have the power when people and situations dictate us. As a result those people that are mistreating us deliberately think they have the power over us. And when we suddenly decide to claim our power back they will say we have changed. Yes we changed because we realised that we still have the power to influence ourselves. Before anyone or anything influences us negatively, we had the power to allow them to influence us. Meaning we still have the power to influence our own selves by choosing ourselves over what they do in our lives. Nothing externally can do you harm until you allow those things to do so to us.
Realise that we can change anything in our lives. Stop telling yourself that you dont have a choice. You have a choice to allow what is controlling you to do so even if you dont like it. Claim your power back. Make decisions that bring you peace. Make decisions that make you happy, not pleasing people at the expense of your own happiness. You have one life to live to allow and entertain situations that you don’t like and you have the power to change them. If you complain about something that you can change and still do nothing about, stop making noise to people because you enjoy this pain that is why you are not doing anything about it.